Resources for Religious
We've set aside this page for resources that are related specifically for people who are still religious. We want religious people to find help when they are dealing with harms caused by harmful religious beliefs and practices. If you know of a resource that would support people who are still religious please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org or fill out our Resource Suggestions Form.
Healing from Religious Harm
These resources are specifically for religious people who are dealing with emotional/mental trauma related to religious indoctrination, fundamentalism, and other harmful religious practices.
Damaged Goods: New Perspectives on Christian Purity
Dianna Anderson offers a fresh approach to the purity conversation, one that opens a new dialogue with the most influential Christian authors of her generation.
Anderson's new sexual ethics draw on core biblical principles and set a standard for today's Christians that may be as influential Joshua Harris' I Kissed Dating Goodbye, Don Raunikar's Choosing God's Best, and Elisabeth Elliot's Passion and Purity.
Anderson uses her own illuminating experience with the purity movement to:
- Reach out to women and men trying to reconcile their own sexuality with their understanding of "what God wants," cultural stigma, and media pressures
- Demonstrate how Christian ideas about purity have infiltrated American politics and culture-and why women are losing
- Offer an affirmative, healing path for everyone to understand their sexuality: one that reconciles scripture, culture, and common sense
Provocative and engaging, she will revolutionize the way you think about sex, abstinence, politics, and faith.
Find the book on Amazon.
(Please note: This book is written by a Progressive Christian. It is based mostly on her own perspective of Christianity.)
Journey Free http://journeyfree.org/
Journey Free is dedicated to helping people transition out of harmful religions, recover from trauma, and rebuild their lives. They offer meetings in the San Francisco area, but also via Skype. 1-510-292-0509
Leaving the Fold - A Guide for Former Fundamentalists and Others Leaving their Religion
This one-of-a-kind self-help book is for people recovering from the harmful effects of religious indoctrination. It provides insight into the psychological manipulations involved in authoritarian religion, and Christian fundamentalism in particular. Drawing on her own person experience as as clinical expertise, the author gives step-by-step guidance for healing from confusion, fear, guilt, anger, and grief. Readers will learn to reclaim their right to think for themselves, experience freedom and self-love, develop inner resources and personal skills, and celebrate living in the here-and-now.
Find the book on Amazon.
Freedom of Mind Resource Center https://freedomofmind.com/
This business provides a great resource for people in the midst of breaking free or helping someone break free from a cult. There is a service fee, but their site also offers many free resources about cults. Their focus is on people finding their own path without the influence of others.
How Cults Rewire the Brain
Diane Benscoter spent five years as a "Moonie." She shares an insider's perspective on the mind of a cult member, and proposes a new way to think about today's most trouble conflicts and extremist movements.
International Cultic Studies Association http://www.icsahome.com/
ICSA's mission is to apply research and professional perspectives to:
Help former members of cultic and other high-control environments
Provide guidance and support to families of people involved in high-control environments
Educate the public about psychological manipulation and the harmful effects of high-control environments
Encourage, support, and conduct research to advance understanding of psychological manipulation and high-control environments
Support helping professionals interested in this area
Seeking a New Religious Community
These resources will give you ideas on finding a new religious community.
SelectSmart - Spiritual Belief System Selector
If you are looking for a new religious community, this quiz may help you decide where you may fall on the spectrum of belief. From these results you can then look at which church or religious group might fit you closest.
Progressive Christianity - Community/Church Search
Progressive Christianity is a non-profit organization that offers thoughtful and practical resources for individuals, families, and communities to explore and affect progressive Christianity, spirituality, community life, social and environmental justice. From the link below you can search for communities near you that fall in line with Progressive Christianity. (North America & International)
Unitarian Universalist Association
Learn more about the UU church and find a congregation near you.
Friends & Family of Nonreligious
These resources are for family and friends of nonreligious people find resources to help you understand and support your nonreligious friends/family.
What's a Parent To Do? There's an Atheist in the House
Tips from an author with The United Methodist Church about how parents can best deal with a child who has come out as an atheist.
Your Child is Secular...Now What? A guide for Religious Parents of Secular Children
This brochure is intended for parents of secular children to understand what their child is going through, and how they can create an open and caring environment for the openly secular child.
Su Hijo es Secular...¿Y Ahora Qué? Une guía para los padres religiosos de hijos seculars
Este folleto es dirigido a padres de niños seculares para facilitar entender lo que su hijo está atravesando, y cómo se puede crear un ambiente abierto y amoroso para el niño abiertamente secular.
Ways to Support a Loved One Who is Losing Their Faith
This article has some ways you can be the support your loved one needs during this difficult transition.
For Extended Family and Friends: Understanding Your Secular Loved One
This source is intended to help siblings, extended family, and friends understand and respond to loved ones who have decided to live openly secular.
Para los Amigos y la Familia Extendida: Como Entender a Su Ser Amado Secular
Este folleto fue desellando para ayudar a los hermanos, familia y amigos entender y responder a los seres queridos que han decidido vivir abiertamente secular.
Acceptance, Reason, Love: A Guide to Openly Secular Allyship
This source is intended for the family, friends, and other people in a secular person's life. It provides tools for understanding and supporting the Openly Secular people in your life while maintaining respect and loving relationships.
Aceptación, Razón, Amor: Una guía para ser aliado de alguien abiertamente secular
Esta guía es dirigida a la familia, amigos y otras personas en la vida de una persona secular. Proporciona herramientas para comprender y apoyar a los personas abiertamente secular en suvida, siempre manteniendo respeto y relaciones amorosas.
The Rise and Fall of Faith: A God-to-Godless Story for Christians and Atheists
Find this book on Amazon
Why I Left, Why I Stayed: Conversations on Christianity Between Evangelical Father and His Humanist Son Find this book on Amazon
Spouse / Partner
In Faith and In Doubt: How religious believers and nonbelievers can create strong marriages and loving families
This book helps partners navigate the complexities of their situation while celebrating the extraordinary richness it affords their relationship, their children, and those around them.
Letter to a Christian Spouse "A former Christian informs his wife that he's now an atheist. She threatens to divorce him. Seth Andrews has a short message for her, and for anyone who finds himself or herself "unequally yoked" with a non-believer."
https://youtu.be/FQUA9Rh2MCY Shorter video message
https://youtu.be/Z0hHHXHMKyk full podcast
Till Death Do Us Part - Interfaith Marriage and Marriage Beyond Faith
This is a blog article about interfaith marriage and marriage after leaving religion. It explores the questions many people face when one or both people in a marriage lose their faith.
For Spouses and Partners: Understanding Your Secular Significant Other
This source is intended to help religious spouses and partners understand what secular people face in a relationship, and how they can be open and accepting of their secular partner.
Pastors and others who work with Secular people
Nontheistic and Naturalistic World View Crisis counseling of nontheists by theists
The Military Association of Atheists and Freethinkers, in collaboration and consultation with Grief Beyond Belief, provides these brief recommendations for chaplains providing counseling for non theists who are experiencing grief or trauma.
Secular Memorials and Funerals Without God
Resources on preparing a secular memorial or funeral. It includes sample services, poetry and readings, music suggestions, and more. This is a resource from the Freedom From Religion Foundation.
Shared Values, Different Perspective: A Guide for Clergy
This source is intended for clergy members who wish to understand how someone who is openly secular may feel after disclosing their views to their community, and how they can mitigate these problems by leading by example with tolerance.
Understanding Secular Students: A Toolkit for Educators
This source is intended to help educators understand the discrimination that secular students may face, provides, a short overview on secular views, and provides educators with a resource on how they can help secular students in their school.
Every year, hundreds of ultra-Orthodox Jewish men and women attempt to explore the world beyond their insular communities. These courageous individuals struggle to redefine their lives despite punitive reactions from family and friends, little if any secular education, a lack of experience with modern gender roles, and, in some cases, a limited command of English.
Footsteps is the only organization in North America assisting people on this journey. Based in New York, Footsteps provides a range of services, including social and emotional support, educational and vocational guidance, workshops and social activities, and access to resources. Thanks to Footsteps, former ultra-Orthodox Jews have a safe, supportive, and flourishing community to turn to as they work to define their own identities, build new connections, and lead productive lives on their own terms.
Silent Gays http://silentgays.com/
This site is for people who are LGBT coming out of religion. There may be parts that are specific to people who still consider themselves religious. This site is a neutral place for people to explore who they are, without fear.
CES Letters https://cesletter.org/index.html
ExMormon Foundation http://exmormonfoundation.org/index.html
exmormon - reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/exmormon/
exmormon women - reddit https://www.reddit.com/r/exmo_women
I Am An Ex Mormon http://www.iamanexmormon.com/
Mormon No More: How to resign from the Mormon church
Mormon Spectrum http://www.mormonspectrum.org/
Mormon Stories http://www.mormonstories.org/
Mormon Transitions http://www.mormontransitions.org/
Post Mormon http://www.postmormon.org/
(As of 4/7/17 this site was down, but may be back up.)
Legal assistance for those who want to resign the Mormon Church.
Recovering Agency: Lifting the Veil of Mormon Mind Control
This book is available on Amazon
Thought Transitions Support Group
This group is a group for people stepping away from the LDS church and who still want to have a supportive community.